Today Jacob and Brooklyn Lindsey are the doting parents to one-month-old twins Cash and Camille, but their path to parenthood has been full of bumps in the road.
High school sweethearts at Dickson, the two wed in June of 2014. After a year of marriage, they decided to start a family, but were unable to conceive.
“We went to the fertility specialist and they ran tests,” Brooklyn said. “Everything kept coming back normal. There was nothing that they could find wrong.”
Though they tried fertility treatments, nothing seemed to be working.
“We prayed about it. We said if this isn’t your will and you don’t think I can handle pregnancy because I’m a big chicken then lead us down a different path,” Brooklyn said laughing, and soon that different path appeared.
Brooklyn received a call from a friend who spoke about her four-month-old nephew who was in need of a home. The father had recently passed away and the mother was in prison. The baby’s grandmother had been caring for him, but had to be hospitalized. There was nobody to care for the little boy, so the Lindseys jumped at the opportunity.
“He came and stayed with us for about two weeks and we fell in love with him,” she said. “So we hired a lawyer and started going forward with the adoption process.”
But things hit a snag when the biological mother decided to keep the boy. DHS got involved, and they decided to honor her request. Even though she remains incarcerated, she will regain custody upon her release. While the situation is heartbreaking, it opened the Lindseys eyes to new possibilities.
“That is what opened the door to adoption for us,” Brooklyn said. “It showed us that we can love somebody other than our own. It really opened our hearts. We were never against adoption, it’s just it had never been on our minds.”
A few months later, they received a call from their lawyer who told them about a three-month-old girl whose parents wanted to relinquish their rights. The Lindseys began the adoption process, and the child was living in foster care until everything was final.
“We had visitations with her,” Brooklyn said. “Everything was going well. They asked the foster mother if she wanted to adopt her because she would get the first choice, but she said no.”
After six months; however, the foster mother changed her mind and decided to adopt the girl after all.
“That was hard. That was really hard. We’d actually set up her nursery. The whole family was attached to her,” Brooklyn sighed. “It crushed us.”
“We said we were just going to stop with the adoption unless something just comes our way,” Brooklyn recalled. “I said I’m not going to go to an agency. I’m not going to do any more of this.”
From there they decided to continue with fertility treatments to try for their own child. In fact, they were actually on their way to an in vitro appointment when another opportunity arrived.
“Driving there I got on Facebook and my friend had shared that an adoption agency in Oklahoma needed a family for a little boy ASAP,” Brooklyn said. “You had to have your home study done, which we had done for that little girl, and you had to be a Native American, which we are.”
The situation looked ideal, so Brooklyn called the agency. The baby had just been born, but the family that was going to adopt him had backed out. Ten other families had called about the boy, so the agency representative told the Lindseys to send some photos and information about themselves so that the mother could choose.
“I told Jacob just pray. If it’s supposed to be, then it will happen” Brooklyn said.
Initially it looked like the adoption was indeed supposed to happen because the birth mother selected them within an hour. The agency said to come to Tulsa immediately to pick him up. So Brooklyn canceled her doctor’s appointment and they hit the highway. Unfortunately, this was going to be another let down.
“I kid you not, as soon as we walked through the doors the tribal protective services came in,” Brooklyn said.
The child was Cherokee and the mother had tested positive for drugs. The tribe had stepped in to intercede and make sure that the boy went to a Cherokee family. Jacob and Brooklyn remained in Tulsa for another week fighting for him through the courts, but the tribe ended up winning the case. In spite of the bad news, this situation proved to be a turning point.
“This is where I was like, I don’t want to do fertility any more,” Brooklyn said. “I felt like every time we went to do it, I got a road block. Something told me we don’t need to do it.”
They signed up with the adoption agency. The agency called them in March and said that a birth mother was interested in seeing their profile. They sent in the profile and were selected.
“She was drug free,” Brooklyn said. “She had never been in trouble with the law. She was just a good-hearted woman who wanted the best for her kids, and she was having twins!”
From that point on, the Lindseys were a part of the birth mother’s pregnancy. They attended ultrasounds and doctors appointments and were in the delivery room the day the children were born. They took their new son and daughter home last month and could not be happier with the way everything turned out.
“It was just a bunch of bumps in the road that could have knocked us down,” Brooklyn said. “The doctors actually told us that as far as fertility was concerned, we were perfect. There’s nothing that should have stopped us, and the treatments that should have given us multiple children wouldn’t work. I truly believe it was God telling us I have a bigger plan for you.”
That bigger plan now goes by the names Cash and Camille.